Mi Dia From Scratch- Grapevine, Texas

OH MY GOODNESS....it's so good it should be illegal (because we don't live close!!)  I'm not saying, but I'm just saying you should just plan a trip to visit Mi Dia From Scratch - or if you live in or around the Dallas area- GET THERE!  Chef Gabrielle DeLeon is the real deal-and just a cool dude.  In an area where Tex-Mex is almost exclusively on most menus, Mi Dia goes straight towards a true Mexcian influence and hit's the bullseye!  

We were looking for a great place- and a little day date (because we love day dates) while attending an awesome Convention outside of Dallas- SCORE. This place was ROCK SOLID- in fact we went back twice- you know that's good!

As always, we enjoyed our conversation with our waiter and we deferred to him and the server as to what we just had to get.  They killed it!!  My dude started with the Capital 3G margarita.  This drink had Tres Generaciones Anejo (super special tequila), Grand Marnier, lemon juice, agave nectar...knocked his socks off- in flavor not the other way!!  Later the waiter suggested a specialty cocktail they created called Hell Freezes Over.  It features chile infused silver tequila, agave, cucumber & basil in a chile pepper salt rimmed glass with a floating piece of dry ice to give this symphony of flavors a mystical appearance. SIMPLY SPECTACULAR.  

(Hell Freezes Over)

We then opted for the table side guacamole.. UHM let me just tell you that I used to only eat guacamole tacos- no protein (not smart, I know)- so I know a thing or two about guacamole- THIS IS THE BEST EVER. (In fact I think that they should make a FOOD TV show just about people challenging him to his guacamole-it's that good!)  Like if I could only eat guacamole one more time in my life.. I'm heading to Grapevine!!  This guac had bacon, jalepenos, onions, tomato paste, garlic (like you'll be sweating it the next day), tomato's... just amazing!!  

For our entrée's we chose a variety of Street Taco's (on two different days).  The first day I got the Sea Bass. Street Taco's are just fun! The sea bass had chile guajillo rub, pickled cabbage, avocado, chile morita remoulade, micro cilantro and was served on flour tortillas.  OH MY GOODNESS-the flavors were dancing in my mouth!  We also had the Duck Carnitas.  It is roasted duck, pickled onion, roasted poblanos, micro cilantro, chile morita served on flour tortillas.  My husband was doing the happy dance. The duck is tender and juicy coupled with a wonderful balance of spice... melt in your mouth-drip down your face- amazing!!  Our next choice was the Baja Shrimp Taco's.  We normally don't get fried things too often... when in Rome- or Texas- and that is what they recommend.. so we did!  Thank GOD!!  THEY WERE SO GOOD!!  The shrimp is a in Negra Modelo beer batter, served with pickled cabbage, avocado, micro cilantro & roasted jalapeño-lime salsa on a flour tortilla.  Can you say JACKPOT.  This taco was fabulous.  

We were full.  Chef DeLeon had other plans for us, however.  THANK THE HEAVENS.  He sent out homemade churros with warm cajeta in the middle.  The churro was sweet and crispy with an amazingly soft dough encompassing the cajeta.  I don't care how full we were... we savored every last bit of this delicious masterpiece!

Getting out of your comfort zone and exploring new things is what life is all about.  Asking people for advice-can open your eyes to new perspectives and options that may not have otherwise been revealed. (Hence the reason we always ask "If I were never to come here again what should I get.")  Dates in different places creates a respite to which your minds can go when you are going through the motions of everyday life.  I promise you we will reminisce about our amazing time and experience with the heavenly food of Mi Dia From Scratch.  Check this place out.  You will be glad you did!

Saturday's with Steph -DeLoach 2013 Chardonnay

Last week I celebrated my 24th birthday. Ty came down to join the party and we spent the weekend in Chicago surrounded by my favorite things; family & friends, great cocktails, wonderful food, and sunshine. On Saturday morning we cabbed down to Navy Pier for the Seadog Architecture Boat Tour. If you haven’t done this yet I would highly suggest making the trip. For roughly $30, you get to see some stunning city views, feel the cool summer breeze on your face, and get a little adrenaline rush if you choose the speed boat tour. WARNING—you may get splashed! The boat tour is a perfect budget friendly date that is bound to put you in a good mood.

WEEK 5 - De Loach 2013 Chardonnay (Heritage Reserve)

After a long, adventure-filled weekend, I was thrilled to get back into the routine of home cooked meals and movie nights withTy (I’m an old lady now at 24 ;) A friend of mine sent a BEAUTIFUL birthday gift from wine.com. (Don't you just love those friends that get you?)  I wasn’t familiar with this website until now, but I will undoubtedly be using it in the future. Between the red wrapping and the fun assortment of snacks and wine, it’s the perfect gift for an aspiring wino like myself.

One of the coolest things about a bottle of wine is the meal that goes with it.  Think fresh veggies, yummy pasta and a handsome man that made the whole thing.  This working girl is in love with the whole package!

One of the bottles I received was De Loach Vineyard’s 2013 California Chardonnay. I’m starting to find that as I am learning more about wine through this blog, I keep coming back to the word balance. De Loach does a nice job balancing crisp fruit flavors with a creamy, slightly oaky palate. I also noticed a mineral taste that “brightened up” the finish and kept this wine on the crisper side. (I had to google minerality in wine to make sure I wasn’t losing my mind, so if you are a beginner like me, don’t be discouraged!) I am learning the terminology as I go and attempting to use my big girl words.

Balance is key—in life, and in wine. De Loach’s Chardonnay provided a well balanced, bright, and crisp Chardonnay that complimented this week’s at home date night. 

Dream

A girl can dream...little girls are so good at this.  Many times their dreams start with big poofy dresses, high heeled shoes that click on the hardwood floor, maybe long nails that tap (I used to think it was so cool if my nails clicked on the typewriter- totally dating myself) and a lot of times some handsome prince swooping in and scooping her up- they want to be a princess AND believe they can be.  They get a little older and their dreams remain in the fairy tale but often it expands to prom queen (which could be a version of a fairy tale), athletics or even career.  Who said you had to have only one dream anyway- the dream police- don't think so!  

I don't know when it changes but I'm certain it does because too many adults are walking around exhausted, overworked and angry.  Too many people I know are just putting their time in because it's a paycheck- but they are miserable!  For most, they haven't even checked their hearts desire in years because they don't realize it has a desire anymore-they're just getting by.

When did we, as adults, loose the ability to dream?  When did we forget that inside each of us we are created for greatness?  Why do we fall in step and do what we've always done because that's what we're supposed to do? FEAR.

What if today someone told you you could do anything you wanted to do in life- you wouldn't fail?  (Oils and Grapevines are sounding really good about now.) What would you do?  Would you do what you are currently doing? Now this holds no scientific data- but my GUESS is that probably 10% of us are doing exactly what we would be doing.  If you're in that 10% that's awesome! If you are in that 10% working a ton does not feel the same as being overworked.  If you're in that 10% being tired does not feel like you are drained of any life.  If you are in that 10% you are not walking around angry and feeling like you need to complain about your job to anyone who will listen- you want to share yourself with the world.  YOU BELIEVE IN YOU! That DOES NOT mean that if you're in that 10% you're not working hard- you're probably working your butt off- but it feels differently when you are going after your dreams rather than selling out to societal notions of complacency and duty.  

A quick story  about dreams and passion.  I have some childhood friends that played a game  that they had gotten at Toys R Us when they were younger.  Something about that game sparked a passion in Chris Ruder and he decided to resurrect this game in 2008.  The game is called Spikeball (you must have it- crazy addicting, SO MUCH FUN and makes for heated family contests-PERFECT)!  To me it's like 4 square with maybe a volleyballish twist. Stupid FUN.  Anyway NOBODY knew what the heck this forgotten game was.  But HE (along with a few co-founders) WENT FOR IT.  Spikeball has been featured on Shark Tank (and he got a crazy good deal), it has been taken around the country and the world with tournaments and it's an official sport in some colleges.  How cool is that? It's in youth groups and backyard barbecues. We played it on Christmas Day!  The thing about it was it was an old, dusty, has-been kids game that is now, due to handwork, marketing genius and PASSION, exploding in sales!  It's about a DREAM!

In each of us lies passion and desire.  It's still there- you just have to dig deep and find it.  I believe with all my heart that God created all of us to do great things- but you have to stop the insanity of doing what you've always done getting the same result each time and do a DO OVER. (DO OVER is also a book by a fabulous guy named Jon Acuff.  I just attended an amazing conference with him.  I N S P I R I N G!)  If you're not dead you have time (thats a harsh reality but it's TRUTH) to unlock the amazing potential and passion within you.  Spark that fire that so desperately needs some oxygen so that it can blaze out of control.  This world craves (and doesn't even know it) dreamers and leaders that will RISK everything to be WHO they were always INTENDED to be.  That's YOU!!  NO dream is too big.  Your dream and your path are determined by you.  I challenge you to unlock and unleash it- you will be amazed at the greatness awaiting you!

Ruxbin-Noble Square, Chicago

Ecclectic and funky, Fun and fabulous.  Quaint and cool.  Earthy and warm.  This place... a perfect date night.  First of all I'm tired of stuffy and pretentious.  I want inviting, imaginative   and delicious.  Ruxbin is SPOT ON!

This cute place is tucked into the Noble Square Neighborhood in Chicago-west of the city in a relatively quiet neighborhood- LOVE IT!! The outside has cascading flowers and just this cool vibe- it's calling you in!! 

The inside... you guys.. seriously this place has lights made out of old desks!! It's just cool!!  I love the atmosphere in here...earthy and warm with a bit of gypsy heaven.. yep I may stay!!!  It only has 32 tables- so it's definitely intimate and cozy but completely approachable!!  

Next- can you say B.Y.O.B?  Yeah, like who doesn't love enjoying a cold bottle of Hanzel Chardonnay- with your appetizer course- SCORE!!  Ok the Chardonnay we brought was pretty killer- in my book- but let's face it- BYOB equals saving money- this girl is all about that!!

The eats.. my goodness... as my husband would say- it just blew your skirt up!!  We started with the Fois Gras... of course we did.  It's how we do.  Anyway I'm not one for much fruit in my dishes and this had candied rhubarb with it (to be honest I was a bit worried I'd like it) and some hazelnut granola. Boy was I wrong!  Holy deliciousness!!!  Did I mention the phenomenal hazelnut granola? GET IN MY MOUTH!!

For the main course we had venison and halibut. First of all I love fish and this Halibut did not disappoint!  It was recommended by our lovely server.  (Remember the question:  If I never come back what should I get~~ she nailed it.)  The fish just melted in your mouth and the kimchi bacon tarragon broth was to die for! Those three flavors were delicately infused together in such a way that I wanted to lick the plate clean.  I'm a lady so I refrained this time.    THE VENISION- ok I know it scares some people- but this dish lit up every taste bud in your mouth!! It was that good!! The tenderness of the meat was accentuated with a bit of cauliflower puree and pomegranate duck jus... hello yumminess!!  

Now, normally you wouldn't comment on a restaurants bathroom situation. However this bathroom (on the outside) adds to the restaurants funk!  It's basically set in a revolving door that you would go through to enter some sort of speakeasy... so fun and outside the box- I love it!

You must do this. For a cozy, fun, funky date night- this is your place.  Bring your favorite bottle of wine or craft beer and get to enjoying the goodness!  First of all the food is outstanding and the ambiance just lends itself to - I want to stay forever!!  This date night was rock solid and a for sure must do!  Ruxbin has it all going on-such a great place to reconnect and romance each other!

A MESSY FAIRY TALE

A perfect marriage is just two imperfect people that refuse to give up on each other.            Author Unknown.

With our 17th wedding anniversary waiting ever so patiently in the wings- I've been thinking a lot about life.  It has been far from perfect yet perfectly ours.  Much of the time I don't know where I begin and where he ends.  That's the funny thing about marriage- you intertwine with another human in such a delicate way that although we have two hearts, two brains etc... you truly do become one imperfect creation together.

We may be functioning, living creatures that EXISTS on our own, but our goals and are passions, our hurts and failures have been meshed so closely that to choose who's him and who's me would be impossible. There are no two other people on this earth that love our children like he and I do.  Although they certainly are not why we fell in love (I mean him chasing me for a year really helped out with that) they are our shared joy and the reasons we wake up in the morning.  

When we started out there were stars and fireworks everywhere (or cockroaches and stinky alleyways behind fraternities) everything seemed exciting and all that mattered was each other. The ring came, the jobs came, the wedding and baby #1 came- and still this blissful existence, although more centered around reality (and not when to go to Willy's) fit loosely into the Fairy Tale that my mind created.  

We added more babies and more life stress-things got complicated- and the Fairy Tale that my mind created changed.  Did you notice I didn't say it didn't exist?  It just changed.  I think we as people get so hung up on what we think things need to look like and what we feel our life should be we forget to hold on and bathe ourselves in the presently perfect moments we are in.   BE STILL.

I know that it's hard to not feel like life should be some sort of perfect Fairy Tale- built on abundant love, wealth beyond all imagination and grape vines surrounding you (sorry that was just my Fairy Tale-ha)- The true Fairy Tale lies in the unruly and sticky parts of life.  The realness of life is the Fairy Tale- when you go to sleep and wake up to that commitment that is unwavering no matter what your heated discussion was about the night before.  The Fairy Tale is communicating and showing grace in the tough moments because at the end of the day that marriage is going to survive whatever this fallen world throws at you.  The Fairy Tale is KNOWING that you are as imperfect as that person laying next to you-and being grateful that they can love you in all your flaws.  

A few years ago I had a friend that lost her husband- I think about her OFTEN- what she wouldn't give to have the toilet seat up, the underwear on the floor, the yard not mowed on her schedule, the grouchy comment,  being 20 minutes late for dinner or whatever.  We all have our 'stuff' that drives us crazy- I KNOW she would take the crazy back in a heartbeat.   Her story reminds me that even in tough times you must recognize your own imperfections and love them for theirs- because this life is short!!  

Life is messy and busy and real.  It's also exciting and beautiful and FUN!!  Having someone to share it with, whether it be a spouse or really great friend or BOTH is one of GODS GREATEST GIFTS- LOVING RELATIONSHIPS.  On this our Anniversary (almost) I celebrate my sloppy and disheveled Fairy Tale that reminds me not to take life too seriously and enjoy the beautiful moments between the chaotic margins! Once again date night is a great way to absorb the messiness in life and restore the fireworks and stars (or cockroaches and stinky alleyways- whatever your thing is- it's YOUR FAIRY TALE.)

Thomas George Estates

Everyone who lived in high up, magical places must feel the same way.  You come down into the world and you mingle, but all the while theres something calling you back.  Arjum Hasam

There is a vortex (i.e. WINE-just kidding-again me being silly)  always pulling me back to my magical place (only it's not mine-dang it).  I come back to reality and live amongst my folk but part of me remains in Sonoma County, California and specifically at Thomas George Estates.    Let's go back to Westside Road, just outside of Healdsburg, Ca  (a little slice of heaven) and take a peak.  

The wine is obviously something pretty special- and I'll certainly get to that but the view and the property are something straight out of another world- a divine creation. (Having traveled in Italy I can tell you for certain that this area of Sonoma County is an equal comparison- the beauty is transcendent.)  On a side note I personally believe that part of the mystical romance a bottle of wine can have is as much to do with your connection to the place as the creation in the bottle-my opinion not fact. Everyone has that place where life seems to be better just because you are there, your worries and your problems seem minuscule- this is my place. 

Sharing this with my mate has created some of the most special times in our marriage- but we have also shared it with family and special friends.  Bringing people to Thomas George, for us, is like sharing a part of us with the people we love the most, you feel vulnerable and excited because you want them to LOVE it as much as you do-BINGO-TGE has never disappointed!

In the morning the fog flirts with the vines in such a sensual way that the hair on the back of your neck stands straight up.  The beauty that surrounds you is heaven sent- in this place I feel Gods abundant blessings more than almost anywhere on earth (and this is before I start consuming the wine- so it's not the wine talking).

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As you enter the heavy iron gates your eyes gaze up the ascending drive to the beauty that awaits.  Pack your picnic because the rich charm and earthy aromas around you will capture your heart. The broken rooster may even treat you to one of its awkward squeaks (inside joke but it adds to the blissful vibe). You're going to need to stay awhile.  (At this point- especially if it's warm- I highly recommend you heading inside and purchasing the 2014 Rosé of Pinot Noir.  They make some of the best Rosé's out there and this one is delicious.)  This wine will make your picnic complete and you can get your tasting started off on a beautiful foot!  

The cave, oh the cave... Seriously  I've been in some fantastic caves- this one is something special.  One of the killer parts about TGE is that you get to do your actual tasting in the cave- how sweet is that?   It's amazingly classy and sophisticated coupled with an anitquey (that word is official) coolness -its just down right boss (my son tells me that means cool- so I'm going with it)!!  MY PLACE! 

Thomas George has a wide variety of crazy good wine, their Chardonnay's and Pinot's  however are magnificent.  Have you ever had a concrete Chardonnay?  Uhm hello wonderful!  For centuries European wine makers have been using this technique and Thomas George was one of the first to bring it to Sonoma County.  The 2012 Estate Chardonnay, Concrete Russian River is spectacular!  Without boring you too much (because seriously you just have to try it's complete goodness) by fermenting in concrete and not oak (which I usually lean towards) it tends to be very aromatic and fruit forward......and delicious! I love it because although it's crisp and bright, there is a subtle nutty flavor that settles it down-LOVE!! My next top choice (except honestly they are all stupid good-that's official wine lingo) would be the 2012  Baker Ridge Chardonnay.  Named after the owners, the Baker Ridge Vineyard, in my opinion produces some of the best fruit on Westside Road- this Chardonnay is full of crisp apple flavors but also provides a soft creamy finish.  It's brilliant golden color is sure to be a crowd pleaser!!

Let's briefly talk Pinot's- only because well I love them!!  (Their other varietals Viognier, Syrah, Zin and Pinot Blanc are all fantastic as well!)  I'm giving high fives to the 2011 Estate Vineyard Baker Ridge Pinot... maybe it's the oil lover in me, but there are hints of lavender and rhubarb.  It's finished off with a slight tobacco flavor that I seriously enjoy in my pinot's.  For me a little bit of dusty funk and I'm all in!

TGE has afforded us a plethora of memories with so many special people, as well as with each other.  We are constantly called back to this place we love.  The wine has captured our heart but the place has imprinted on our souls.  In the evening, here on Westside Road, as the sun sets on the quiet vineyard floor we sip our velvety red and thank God for places that we can occasionally call home-even if for just a date vacation-check them out-just don't stay too long- I'll be back to My Magical Place!

Saturday's with Steph- Villa Sandi Prosecco Rose

“There are these two young fish swimming along and they happen to meet an older fish swimming the other way, who nods at them and says "Morning, boys. How's the water?" And the two young fish swim on for a bit, and then eventually one of them looks over at the other and goes "What the hell is water?””

This is the beginning of a speech I listened to this week called This is Water. In this speech, David Foster Wallace addresses the subject of value; more specifically, where do you place your value? As humans, we are taught by society that if we set up an ultimate destination in life, and make it there, we will find happiness. The problem with this is that so many of us will never reach that destination. If we measure our value by money, we will never be rich enough. If we measure it by beauty, we will never be tall, or thin, or pretty enough. If we measure our value by success, we will never be powerful enough. The list goes on.

I feel that so many people, including myself, get caught up in this ultimate goal, meanwhile forgetting to BE PRESENT. I constantly have to remind myself to stop and feel the “water” around me. Challenge yourself to really live out each day rather than always trying to get to your destination. Oh, and keep a bottle of champagne around the house when you feel like celebrating a good day.

WEEK 4 — Villa Sandi Prosecco Rose

This week I went on a girlfriend date to GT Oyster Bar, which EB has featured in the past.  This place is amazing! I highly recommend checking it out. (they have a half price oyster happy hour too.. SCORE!) It’s a great place to go with friends because they really encourage sharing and their knowledge about their dishes really created a complete package! I am not very familiar with Prosecco, and I rarely order it at a restaurant, but  I wanted to try something different and fun. Villa Sandi knocked it out of the park!  This bubbly was FUN! The golden pink color matched the floral finish of this sparkling wine. It was a perfect wine to kick of girls night out.  This may sound silly but this special bottle promoted great conversation and made for a special time-girls night date night!

Quality Time

Long ago I read a book, that I've recommended numerous times over, called The Five Love Languages, by Gary Chapman.  This book made such an impression on me because it identified 5 expressions of love that people portray. We are all different so it stands to reason that a lot of the time our personal expressions of love are not our spouses....SHOCKER:)!!  The five expressions are Quality Time, Physical Touch, Acts of Service, Receiving Gifts, and Words of Affirmation. (Wonder if you can guess which one most of the guys I know are?)  I've found that I'm much better at finding the value of and putting effort into the gifts that are part of my Love Language:  Quality Time and Physical Touch.

This needy lady is all about Quality Time  (my husband is rolling his eyes about now).  SO anywhooo..when I was a child I remember my mom and dad (before they got divorced) telling me that the next day they were taking me out of school to do something special. I kept guessing and guessing as to what it could be-they were not budging.  The anticipation on the drive was almost more than I could handle. At the time I had one other sibling and I couldn't believe that I was going somewhere ALONE with my parents- seriously how cool was that!  They pulled up to the most spectacular site I had EVER seen (think slow mo fireworks exploding in my head)..on the corner of Clark and Addison I stood looking up at the home of the Chicago Cubs. I will never forget that moment.  I was going to get to see Ryne Sandberg on second base!! That day is imprinted deeply in my heart. I spent time alone with both of my parents.  I felt so special.  (Seeing Ryne didn't hurt either!!)

Years later we brought our kids to Wrigley- we saw a concert not a ball game- but we got to touch the Ivy.  Even at the time I told my guy that I thought this was a rite of passage.  Maybe that will be their moment.

We need alone time with our spouse to nourish and strengthen our relationship with them, so why should our children be any different?  The thing about that day for me was not that my sister wasn't with us (she would tell you it was-insert huge smile)- it was just that I got to be a person with just my parents- to be honest who knows if I ever had any time like that again with both of them.

I've heard many times that parents feel guilty if they are going to do something with one child without the presence of the other or others.  Feeling guilty because you are connecting with your children as individuals in unwarranted.  Feel guilty if you don't invest the time to connect with each one.  To be honest, I enjoy one on one time with my kids because I see characteristics shine that I may not always see when we are hanging with the whole family.  Being that they are all separate individuals with personalities that require different things from us... this time spent alone is fruitful for each of us.

One of my kids favorite things to do is just to go have a meal with us alone.  You don't have to break the bank to prove anything to your children, you just have to be present- and that requires time, effort and engagement (put down your cell phone-that's a hard one I know).  We never know which images and memories are going to forever be painted into their minds eye about us and our relationship with them (hopefully it's not my crazy momma self).  I'm certain that my parents have no idea how special that day was to me (shhh don't tell them)- but I treasure it on so many different levels! 

I want my kids to have those dates with me that can place more brush strokes on our canvas of life.  I want them to know that I spent time thinking of just them and planning for a surprise with only them in mind.  The running joke in our home is that each one says that another one is my favorite.  I used to argue and try to convince them that that was just not the case.... I've come to think that maybe there is an evenness that they can recognize (or I'm trying to make myself feel better-which is entirely possible).  I want them to know, the same way I want my spouse to know, that they are valued, treasured and important enough for me to give them my time- not just driving them to activities and back-although that's an act of love all in itself.  I want them to feel special as just themselves, as well as a part of this family- because let's face it- we all need that.  I want them to have date nights- because memories are made in those special times-they are ALL my favorites-even the big adult one!

The Patio at Cafe Brauer

Simply romantic.  Seriously do you want to get away from the craziness (which can be awesome) of the city?  This hidden gem may just be your place to go.  Tucked so close to Lincoln Park Zoo's barn you probably could milk a cow!!  

Even our slow stroll there (we came from the zoo)  screamed of romance and simplicity.  We meandered through gardens of lush flowers and complete beauty.  Color was exploding all around us.  Grab your mates hand and take in the beauty that precedes you entering the patio!!

This is a great place to take advantage of the outdoors.  The patio overlooks a small pond and a garden lined pathway.  Your view of the city will be nothing short of spectacular!  It's like you just got the best seat in the house- and I'm all about that!

This is most definitely a place to have an appetizer and a glass of wine while gazing into each others eyes  (getting a little cheesy on you).

We enjoyed the Calamari.  It was fried but not too heavy (which we really appreciate).  The lemon aoli was fabulous!!!  My guy went straight for the Goose Island Green Line- ON TAP- OH YEAH!!  

Coincidentally, (since we just featured it) I beelined for the Sonoma Cutrer Chardonnay!!  I absolutely love this wine because it's consistent and a great price!! On any menu if I'm not sure about other selections I always feel confident that Sonoma Cutrer is the way to go!

The Patio at Cafe Brauer is a simple and romantic place to go hide in Chicago- on a beautiful day!  It was such a great choice to enjoy a quiet, meaningful conversation. Being a pseudo country girl- I appreciated the serene beauty set apart from the city spice! On your next date day surprise your mate with a stroll to this sweet spot!  

Mauritson and Me...

I arrive at Midway 45 minutes before my flight, per usual. The security guard is shaking his head at me rummaging through my messy purse trying to find my passport. By the time I get on the plane I am sweaty from lugging my overstuffed carry-on, which is holding 4 pairs of shoes for my 3 day trip. Upon arrival in Toronto, I run to the airport bathroom to put on my makeup and change into my dress for the night. From there I hop in a cab to meet Tyler and his friends for a night on the town.

This is usually how my trips go when visiting Ty. Its a crazy weekend of fun and catching up with loved ones that always ends too soon. We have a blast together with our friends and family, but rarely get alone time to just BE. Something I am learning in our relationship is that it is so so important for us to step away from the craziness and really connect with each other on a deeper level. Sometimes this may be on a fancy date in a quiet restaurant, and sometimes it could just be on a long car ride, which honestly is some of my FAVORITE times with my guy. If you want to test your relationship, try driving from Toronto to Chicago in the middle of January, IN A BLIZZARD. For me, finding a balance of family/friend time and alone time is imperative to surviving this long distance relationship. 

WEEK THREE

This week, Ty and I decided to go out for our wine tasting adventure. We chose a quiet little wine bar and split a bottle of Mauritson 2012 Zinfandel. This wine was…. sexy! The dark plum color of the wine mixed with the dim lighting in this empty restaurant had romance written all over it.

This wines blackberry, raspberry jam fragrance was smooth on the palate. It had a great balance of dark fruit juiciness and dry acidity that lingered on my tongue. It was soft enough for me to sip on all night, and full-bodied enough to keep Tyler interested. This Zin was lighter and less smokey than others I have tasted, so if you are just beginning to get into different wines like myself, this could be a perfect option for you.  

 Bottom line... romantic, full bodied -and full mouth of berry deliciousness added to this date night's sweet spot!!  A velvety elegance is what we were looking for and Mauritson nailed it!! 

Prayer

My slope is always slippery... mostly because I have no filter and long ago I realized I couldn't be the presidents wife... I talk too much (but don't tell my middle son-he gets it from me- we are always asking him to be quiet). I'm not funny, I have no amazing talent, I weigh a little too much, I'm short (the list goes on) but I can talk.  So when I believe in something... I WEAR IT... I SCREAM IT.. I OWN IT...

READY FOR THIS... I PRAY.  I WANT TO. I NEED TO.  I HAVE TO.  

When I don't pray for my spouse and my marriage (or when I get lazy in my prayer life) things around these parts get a little hairy.  Now some may call it coincidence, but I'll tell you it's TRUTH.  What I know:  some people go through life trying to go it alone- I'm not capable of that. Marriage is HARD.  Anyone who tells you it's not- probably frequents Colorado to partake in their "legal recreations."  Personally I need all the help I can get- and that means my prayer life needs to be intentional and specific.  (I'm not dumbing down my faith or my marriage- I'm being me.. so try not to read too much into my silliness.)

Specifically, I spend more time praying for my husbands heart, head, career and person than I probably do any other being in my life- including my children (eek I just said that out loud- and I don't feel guilty about it).  I KNOW that in order for them to be ok we must be ok and that requires time and effort on my part-talking to the big guy about MY guy!  I know this is completely counter-culture to focus so hard on your spouse and take the focus off of YOU (I guess I kind of beat that counter-culture drum anyway-YIKES) but I'm here to tell you that it's not only worth it- it's necessary.

When I get up in the morning- if I've pressed snooze- which I never used to do but getting older changes you- I hit the ground running.  I am a planner.  I write everything down and LOVE LOVE LOVE checkmarks... the more I have in a day... the better off I am!!  I digress... So if I hit the ground running and have had no quiet time.. my day is already starting a little off kilter.  My marriage does better when I am intentionally praying over HIM, over us.  That requires my time.  

I hear excuses all the time.. most of it is "I don't have the time."  I'm going to push back HARD on that... You don't NOT have the time.  Truthfully my prayer time makes our date nights better.  Have you ever been so stinkin' mad at someone?  You had a whole conversation- in your head (again could be just me- if it is- good for you) -you were going to let them have it.  You see them and they reach out and say, "I'm sorry."  INSTANTLY BAM- everything just changed.  What if that was your EVERY DAY? One of the best quotes on prayer I've read is by Oswald Chambers in My Utmost for His Highest Daily Devotions "God has established things so that prayer on the basis of redemption, changes the way a person looks at things. Prayer is not a matter of changing things externally, but one of working miracles in a persons inner nature."  (WOW THAT GOT DEEP!)  I'm calmer, more focused and centered when my prayers are going up- instead of my mouth opening up in the wrong direction!  This creates (most of the time- insert huge grin) a calmer more pleasant environment because I've already dealt with whatever ails me with the guy...so my guy gets the better me!!  Hence- date nights can be more Barry White like... Can't get enough of your love, babe!

GT OYSTER BAR

Men and Fish are alike.  They both get into trouble when they open their mouth.                Author Unknown

Don't have to ask me twice- I'm obsessed with this place-they had me at the quote on the wall (above). First of all if you're having oysters with your mate...seriously sexy!! (We all know what oysters are- if you don't look it up- GOOD STUFF.) This place raises the bar!  From the moment you walk in the door you know you are in for some killer goodness!!  They don't disappoint!

The ascetics in this restaurant are classy and chic!!! The functional wine tower in the middle of the dining room adds beauty and depth.  The black chalkboard wall gives the chic room warmth with the amazing chalk fish.  Holy gorgeous batman.

Shall we talk drinks?  I think we shall.  My hubby had On the Up and Up- fun name- GREAT DRINK.  He tends to lean towards Chartrueise drinks- and this one coupled with a fun basil leaf to finish it off really landed on top!  It's made with La Caravedo Pisco- which is a grape (we are very into our grape based drinks) based white spirit, green chartreuse, lime and of course the basil leaf.  He found it insanely good!  I, of course, chose the wine.  What?  It was a really muggy day.  So, shocker, I ordered the Chardonnay.  It was the Bhueller, 2013 Russian River Chard...So good!!  (I love Sonoma County Chardonnay's!)

Uhm you can't be here and NOT try the oysters.  I mean you could but you would be doing yourself a MAJOR disservice!!  We had 6 of both kinds of the west coast oysters!! Yeah- pretty much the bomb with the mignonette sauce!!

THAI COCONUT SOUP isn't your thing?  Truthfully I don't like coconut HOWEVER..it'll be my thing now!!  The soup was creamy and full of generous shrimp and mussels pieces!!   This may be hard to believe but for a hearty soup...it really had a desirable light quality about it- you must try!!  

Lobster Mac and Cheese-that's like asking a child if they want a cookie-  UHM HECK YEAH!!  It's not my mom's macaronni with hotdogs in it (did your parents do that?) YIKES-but it will have to do-I'm salivating just thinking about it!! It's rich and creamy- filled with huge chunks of lobster and delicious eddamame.... YOU MUST SPLURGE- this will be worth every burpee you have to do later!!!

As you can tell I have a few obsessions- FISH TACOS is up there!! I will specifically look for restaurants any place we go that have FISH TACOS!!  YOU MUST HAVE GT OYSTER BAR'S FISH TACOS if you want to have a happy belly!!  Not only is the fish delicate and delicious- these tacos have all the good fixins'- chipotle aioli and chicharron (which is fried pork crackling) I just said pork- we all know everything is better with pork!!!

So what I'm sayin' is that you want to have a good date right?  (I mean throwing in there that you're eating a natural aphrodisiac-I just made it so you don't have to look it up- may just help your case.)  GT Oyster Bar is a serious must do.....especially for date night!  

Saturday's With Steph- Sonoma Cutrer

“The quickest way to acquire self-confidence is to do exactly what you are afraid to do.”

Self-confidence and personal comfort are two things that this weeks guest blog have brought out of me. Writing and putting your thoughts out there, as big or small as they may be, can be very scary without the comfort of a support team. Being the youngest of 5, I am so blessed to have a huge support system around me at all times. Someone is always there to answer my questions and give me valuable advice. However grateful I am for this, I sometimes find myself relying too much on the knowledge of others, rather than trusting my gut. I have to remind myself that what I am feeling is valuable and it’s OK if I change my mind along the way. We are all learning as we go, and that’s kind of a beautiful thing! 

Where am I going with this??-- WINE! I was given a wine journal as a gift  when I first started to become more interested in nice wine (not the boxed “wine” that got me through college.... HOLY HEADACHE). In this journal, you are supposed to write tasting notes. Until recently I hadn’t written in it, mainly out of fear that what I was tasting was “wrong” or that I didn’t yet know enough. It took doing this guest blog to realize that the “yet” was the key. We all start somewhere! 

WEEK TWO- Sonoma-Cutrer 

This week Ty and I picked out another chardonnay, Sonoma-Cutrer 2013 Sonoma Coast Chardonnay. We decided to make a game out of this and write down the first 5 things that came to mind after tasting. Without knowing, we both came up with the following:

Apple

Pear

Citrus/Lemon

Toasted nuts/ Toasty 

Butterscotch 

This medium-bodied California chardonnay is easy to drink, and gives that warm toasty finish that I personally love so much. The crisp bright fruit flavors make this wine perfect for a hot summer day by the pool, but the warm, oaky finish also makes it great for an at home date night with a blanket and movies... and candles of course. 

Check out Sonoma Cutrer!!  

Cheers!

Your Tiara

Date Nights bring out the diva in me- not really- but sometimes a girl needs to put on her tiara and walk down those cascading steps! Not you? Ok it's just me then!  I love my yoga pants and oversized sweatshirts (it hides the me in me) - but on date night I ditch those duds and try to sparkle for my guy!!  Now- although I do wear a dress and stilettos on some of my dates- sometimes I'm not feeling that- so I try to sparkle with my accessories!  

Truth be told I feel much like the lady I play on TV when I put my baubles on (HA)!! I can be wearing shorts and a t-shit-on I slip my necklaces and bracelets and BAM..that outfit turns into something out of the ordinary (which I tend to be).  I'm really into the whole layering thing.  I mean who can choose just one???  Certainly not me.  What I've learned is that I love textures and colors!!   Remember that old tale about not being able to mix silver and gold... yeah that's like saying blue and black don't go together (if you're in the camp that still believes this-please stop)!!!  JUST DO IT!!  Put them all together and WOW- you've got something there!!

Corrie from cwdrawings.com

Layering can give your outfit depth and direction.  For instance if you are wearing a really baggy top but you layer a heavy necklace-like above-right away you allow the contour of your body to shine through!!  You change your comfy cover-up into a hip, let's go rock this town outfit!

Don't get me wrong, BUT being uniformed is boring....Sure there is a time and a place for it (like parochial schools) but when it comes to accessorizing - MIX IT UP!!  Steer clear of matching sets...that works for sheets (well not always but for some it does).

Corrie from cwdrawing.com

A pop of color here and there can totally change your entire outfit.  I tend to dress more monochromatic at times- however- I use my accessories to really make a statement!  I have many current favorites!! A few of which are my Coordinate Collection Necklace, my Stella and Dot Jewelry- it's fun- yet most of it is timeless- and my diffuser necklace- you can be hippie chic and funky-while smelling great!!  I'm seriously obsessed with this Present over Perfect Cuff- I mean Shauna Niequist rocks my world- these three words need to be tattooed on my forehead! 

Click to see some fun examples

No matter what you choose- have fun with it!! In all things- especially when you're heading out on your date- you want to feel good about YOU!! BE YOURSELF AND OWN IT!!!

Make sure to check out Corrie's- our guest models Tongue in Cheek Animal Designs-  http://www.cwdrawings.com

Complaining

"Complaining is dangerous business. It can damage or even destroy your relationship with God, your relationships with other people, and even with your relationship with yourself." Joyce Meyer

We all have someone in our life that can not see the sun through the trees (is that a saying? – I typically mess them up).  Anyway you get the point.  It’s that person who when the phone rings your neck shrinks down a bit and your lip kind of curls- because A.  You’ll only hear how bad everything around them is.  B.  You’ll never hear or feel any joy in their tone.  We all have that person- so you know what I’m talking about.  How do you feel after that phone call?  Exhausted?  Overwhelmed?  Like next time you may let it go to voicemail?

What if that person was you?  I’m not proud of this but I’m certain that that person can be me when I engage my spouse at given times.  The kids are being difficult-fighting like crazy animals, the dog peed on the floor, there are bills to pay, school to get ready, oil questions to field and he calls and says “How’s your day going?”  BLAST OFF… I go into nuclear mode….On the other end of the receiver he must be thinking he called the Funny Farm-he did-Occupancy 1-ME!

In my opinion complaining is a habit- not a trait.  I don’t believe that people are born complainers.  In fact,  I think it's a used mechanism by someone to create camaraderie, companionship or sympathy- a huge struggle for me regarding the complainers in my life.   Like the song says WAIT A MINUTE.. Fill My Cup… oh wait it’s not that time yet..   I know that this is commonplace these days BUT, wait a minute- you don’t need negative feedback to fit in.  I’m getting OLDER (way older than I feel) but even amongst people my age and older (shocking) I find that they find companionship in denouncing their spouse.  I don't even think they believe what they are saying- they just buy into this perceived notion that if you tear one down you build another up.  This is a sad state of affairs. If your friends relate to you because you complain- reevaluate your friends.  (I AM NOT stating you can’t be REAL or have a confidant but if you are relying on negativity about your mate to relate to your people- they may not be your people- just saying.)

The mere fact that we had a ceremony and we possess a certificate that says we are married does not give us license to act any way we wish with no push back.  Life get’s messy.  Each one of us has responsibilities that seem bigger than us.  This seemingly chaotic life-my life, your life- that looks good on Facebook or to our friends causes us-at times- to unleash on the one person that we should be celebrating. They are navigating these murky waters with us!!  What the heck are we doing wasting our time- their time- complaining about….LIFE??  OUR LIFE TOGETHER.

This complain train can be derailed with Date Night!  By fueling our relationship with purpose and intention we immediately change our hearts.  This, according to moi, is directly related to how our heads react to the stresses of everyday life.  If you are feeding your relationship with meaningful conversation, laughter, compassion, passion, time and physical touch you are creating a sanctuary of 2 (my argument would be 3 but we'll talk about that later) separated from the rest of this crazy world.  You’ve built a proverbial bubble that may (let’s be honest) get distorted at times, but will never pop because you are fortifying and fertilizing the nucleus of this sacred relationship- each other!!

Saturday's With Steph

Steph "I’m a lover of all things adventure: food, wine, traveling, live music, dancing, and making memories with family and friends. I am 23, and figuring out how to enjoy all of these things on… a BUDGET! My taste definitely exceeds my bank account. One of my favorite things to do in the summer is sit on a patio in Chicago with good food, good wine, and great company. I wanted to find a way to capture this feeling without breaking the bank. One thing I’ll be doing this summer is a weekly wine “tasting”. My boyfriend, Tyler, and I will pick out a bottle of wine once a week and have an “at home date night”, talking about the wine from a beginners perceptive (I know that I have a palate… I also know that it’s not yet sophisticated)."

WEEK ONE:

The Dreaming Tree Chardonnay

This Chardonnay is a collaboration between Dave Matthews (Yes, Dave Matthews!) and Sean Mckenzie (Wine Maker). Ty and I packed up a table and chairs, blankets, and a cooler and headed up to Ravinia to see Steve Miller Band. I had never been there before, and WOW! I would highly recommend getting a group of friends together to see a show there at least once this summer. It's hippie chic meets classy sophistication.  

The WINE— I am a very visual person. If I walk into a restaurant and see candles and exposed brick, I’m SOLD. The tree on this wine label tied into the feel of the night perfectly.. whimsical and light. The taste followed suit, with notes (learning the wine lingo!) of apple and pear. It did have a bit of an oaky finish, but not the big toasty, butter ball finish that I am usually attracted to. If you like something that has a bit of that vanilla, oak finish, but is still on the crisp side, this is a great option for you. 

Overall- Wonderful experience! The wine, the music, the outdoors… it was the perfect combination of fun and romance.  A date night must!

Check out The Dreaming Tree Chardonnay at their website.

$15

www.dreamingtreewines.com

Joes Seafood, Prime Steak and Stone Crab

DATE NIGHT HEAVEN!  You're in for a real treat!  

I hadn't been to Joe's in about a year- and I was so excited to get back.  In my opinion this isn't a traditional Chicago Steakhouse- the premier quality of the seafood sets it apart from the rest. It never disappoints. 

When you walk in through the doors on Grand Ave in Chicago you're greeted with a bunch of high top tables and a dark "Gentlemen's Club" looking bar.  It feels a little bit old school and I'm all about it.  The dining room is much the same with thick, dark wood beams and cream walls.  I certainly feel like you're special just because you're there!!  From the amazingly competent and friendly waitstaff to the manager who checks in on you- this place is definitely impressive and worth it for special occasions.

First of all their wine list is fantastic.  (You'll quickly figure out I'm not a cocktail person-so I can't talk about them- SORRY.)  If you're going in for just a glass of wine- because you've been out shopping on Michigan Ave- or more specifically Nordstroms (it's right across the street-  pssst ladies you can send your husband over there while you shop- WIN/WIN in my book) you want to check out their wine list!!  I really like (on the current list) the Nickel and Nickel 2013 Truchard Vineyard Chardonnay.   The link for the Chardonnay:  http://shop.farniente.com/?method=products.productDrilldown&productID=332A1D44-0D37-5ED9-4237-3EE97932AE9A&originalMarketingURL=product/napa-valley-chardonnay-2013-truchard Although I didn't have it last time we were there I love it's fruit forward flavors coupled with wonderful vanilla notes.  Makes for a wonderful treat on a stressful shopping day (insert huge smile face)!!!

For any kind of wine lover the entire wine list is spectacular and will not disappoint!!  Want to know a secret before we get into some amazing food selections?  Ready for this?  There's a naughty wine list that you can ask to see.  NOW this list would only be for rare occasions (like maybe never) or just to tease you but it's totally fun to look at and kind of an insiders must do!!

Ok so do you want your tastebuds to be all jazzed up?  Seriously my mouth is watering while I write (THIS IS WHY I WILL NEVER BE SKINNY)!  We LOVE crab.  We've been to Alaska and had crab right off the boat... JOES is right off the boat-like 24 hours- but we're in Chicago so that's pretty good right?  FOR SURE! To start if you're REALLY hungry, with a big crowd, or just want to try it-THE WHALE is incredible.  You get a whole variety of King Crab, Lobster Tail, Shrimp Ceviche and a few other exciting sea inhabitants- SO DARN GOOD!!  It's a must do just to say you did!!

Another favorite of mine is the Chilean Sea Bass... Holy oh my goodness!!  It's got a sweet- yet savory- miso glaze with some tasty Bok Choy to finish it off.  It will not disappoint!!  For sides we go all over the map but on our last visit we had Fried Asparagus- once again our waiters suggestion.  It comes with their chosen dipping sauce- but ask for the mustard sauce that comes with the crab- it's out of this world good!!!  As my husband would say STUPID GOOD!!  

Dessert is not something I order often HOWEVER Joes' Peanut Butter Pie with Fudge Sauce (at least I'm consistent with my Peanut Butter)is one of the best desserts ever created.  In fact for my birthday it's been a tradition (skipping this year) that I get that as my cake!!!  It's that good!! It's like this whipped semi light peanut butter goodness with warm fudge exploding in your mouth.  Strike 2  that I'll never be skinny:)!!!

I love romance and mystic... Joes provides this environment (at least in my head and that's all that matters right?) that is private and romantic...but not pretentious- it keeps us going back for more....date nights! Check them out http://www.joes.net

Passion

My lifes mission- to live with passion and permeate love to those around me.

"Those who live passionately teach us how to love.  Those who love passionately teach us how to live,"  Sarah Ban Breathnach

Peanut Butter is my passion :)- I kid (sort of).  Many different images or ideas pop into our head when we hear the word passion.  Some are private representations of relationships that we are in or have been in. A lot of times , however, when I’m talking to people their answers are about themselves and maybe their kids- but rarely when I ask people what they are passionate about do they answer their spouse.  It confuses me (but that’s not hard to do).

Examples of what I get..

“My kids.”

“Working Out.”

“Vacations.”

“Restaurants.”

“Decorating.”

"Peanut Butter." (only I said that)

These are all great things… who isn’t passionate about their kids??  I am uber passionate about Christ, my amazing kids, my fabulous family, my spastic dogs, my date nights, my oils, my accessories (guilty pleasure), and of course melted peanut butter with chocolate (don’t judge it’s so yummy- but looks pretty bad huh)- to name a few.  MY HUSBAND, period.

What I find is that we are consumed with societal ideas about SELF and Instant Gratification.  There is an underlying feeling that our lives should be exactly  how ‘I want it?’  ME. ME. ME. We (the proverbial we) place our own wants and our own  desires above the one relationship here on earth that should be above the rest- our marriage relationship. 

I have had many people commend me “you are so good you guys have date night.”  I’m not so good- I’m intentional.  I am passionate about having date night and I guard it at all costs because I know that if we don’t have passion and connection we’ve lost.  (Selfishly, for me, I connect the best when we are alone)

Occasionally it takes one person to initiate the date night- because let's be honest- life get's busy and sometimes we JUST DON'T FEEL LIKE IT- but you won't regret the time spent nourishing and embracing your relationship.

We mix it up and do date night, or excursions or whatever to purposefully reignite those flames (because let’s face it every marriage takes constant work and reconnection). We spend time flirting, talking, dancing (well what I do by others standards is not dancing- but I have fun doing it) dating  because #1 it’s FUN and I’m all about that (I mean who doesn’t want a juicy Cheeseburger and Foi Gras Scrambled Eggs) and #2 if I can’t be passionate about Him- then everything else is about me….That’s not who I was created to be.

Au Cheval- DATE DAY

Date Nights can be Date Days- one of my personal favorites is to spend the day with Jon on a 'workday'- makes me feel like we are getting away with something sneaky! And well that adds spice to a relationship.

Au Cheval… Oh shitake mushrooms..  it’s transcendent! I’m mean seriously people you want a fun date?  You must check this place out.

So you walk into this ‘DINER’- they can call it whatever they want but if this is just a diner then I’m not opinionated and well I’m raising the poop flag on that.   Back to walking in the door… right away hello funky urban meets cool eclectic scene.  THIS IS MY JAM.   If I could have stayed there all day I would have.  JUST FUN!

We sat at a table in super comfy, overstuffed (but not too much) leather benches  with a thick old world table.  The whole place is just COOL.  Exposed brick , open kitchen and different wood grains excited our senses! I was a bit on stimulation overload (kind of like walking into Anthropologie- but that’s a story for another day).  The chefs were having a blast- which totally just made our date fun-talking about people who loved their jobs- dreaming about opening our own restaurant.   Our waiter rocked with his recommendations… OH the recommendations... never be afraid on a date to ask “If I never come back here-WHAT should I get.”  It sort of guarantees your waiter/waitress will pay attention to you.  And well HELLO AMAZING!!!

Can you say Foie Gras Scrambled Eggs… Seriously people unless you are some kind alien (which after consuming those I was certainly taken to another world) you MUST do this.  If you never have tried Foie Gras- you will go searching for it after this- PROMISE!!  Not only will you thank me-but you will be giving God high fives!!!  That just happened!!  

Au Cheval is famous for their Cheeseburgers (in case you live under a rock- which by the way I did) they have the #1 rated burger in the country (please don’t tell anyone- it may get packed).  SIDENOTE- we got there when it opened and while we were still eating they were telling people it was an hour wait!!   THIS CHEESEBURGER—ahhhh truthfully that’s all I should say about it.  I ordered mine with an over-easy egg on it, topped with their house made sauce and delicious pickles.   Serious pickles going on there.  The creamy sauce mixed with the soft egg yolk oozed out all over the juicy burger and begged me to take a bite.  I obliged and devoured the whole thing!   

THE ROOTBEER- did I mention it was on tap?  Yeah so like its got a creamy carmely goodness that screams of converse shoes, rolled up jeans and a flannel shirt, sitting on a bale of hay in the crisp fall air. I shouldn’t stop before I mention the Bloody Mary.  The right blend of spice coupled with sweet pickles and yummy peppers… yeah he should have had another!

Surprise your mate and head to Au Cheval.. I promise you not only will you have a serious good time- you will consume killer eats and an amazing atmosphere!  Check them out http://auchevalchicago.com

Balance

I want. They want. He wants.  I need. They need. He needs.  That's about how my life looks some days!  Does that look right to you?  It doesn't to me either!!  He NEEDS.  They NEED.  I NEED.  He WANTS.  They WANT.  I WANT... probably more like it.  But truthfully many days not my reality.

When my life doesn't follow HIM, THEM, ME... it get's messy.  I get messy and the rest follow suit! Jesus, husband, kids, work, sports, house chores, bills, family, friends, fitness...LIFE..  We all have it. Being honest sometimes I don't want to lead this ship (the me ship)... but I am, I do and I will...  So how do I manage (VERY MESSILY:))

Not reinventing the wheel here but I hear so many people complaining (sorry but they are) about how they can't do "this", and "that" doesn't work... WELL that's because you are spending your time complaining instead of doing.  Now I get that your 'gift' may not be balance... mine isn't either!!!  So what do I do to give my life some balance?

1.  Prioritize.  What can't you compromise on?  WHO/ what needs your attention? Who are you and does your life's time reflect that?  I get that in life we all have things that certainly need our attention and time- the grass has to get cut-TRUTH.  I would however challenge anyone to say that if you are posting pictures of your children's faces all over Facebook and Instagram but you aren't spending time with them... maybe you need to evaluate what your heart really feels.  We all get caught up doing things that are either mindless or that we have told ourselves we 'need' to do but they really aren't our priorities!!!

2. Be Intentional.  What's that mean?  I try very hard to follow through with people and things that need my attention.  I sometimes fail at this, but I really focus on who and what needs me.  At the top of that list would be my prayer time....(truth be told sometimes I do it better than other times).  I'm at my best when my prayer time is at the top.  You don't need my list because you have your own- but if fitness is important to you..make it happen.  Reading- pick up your book- it can't get read if you don't schedule the time.  

3.  Plan your time.  I have an amazing planner- yep old school style planner.  DO IT!! Best thing that I ever did.  I literally write - WORK OUT (even though I know I am going to) so that I can check it off.  I planned that time though and I have to do it- It's a mind game!!  If you are consumed with work (which I can be) you may have to write in TIME with Child XXX- that's ok!   In order to balance things out- you may have to let your mind see on paper your time allotments!! Check out my planner-  https://www.erincondren.com

4.  TAKE BREAKS.  We all have the needs of others and ourselves!  What I see in myself as well as many of my friends, however, is that we forget to stop.  Smell the roses.. (you may get a thorn in your nose).  Just kidding.  NO really... stop, take time.  Take that nap that you feel guilty about taking.  Don't beat yourself up because every minute of your day isn't filled with 'doing' something.  That is a man made notion that we must fill our time with monotonous work!! Relax a little!

5.  DATE NIGHT.  If you have a significant other... DATE NIGHT.  If you don't- have a date with a friend or yourself.  Take time to get out of the house and do something that is fun!!! FUN is good for the heart and the soul.  It makes the priorities of daily life more enjoyable.  Reward yourself!!!

Bottom line... to achieve balance we have to be intentional about it because there is always going to be distractions in our way.  I will never do it perfectly but when I plan my time appropriately... I get close to achieving the peace that I so desperately desire for my family and myself!!